My brother's second son was born in the summer of 1968. One day when Jim was visiting my brother the baby woke up from his nap and started crying. When we all went in to the see the baby and Jim asked if he could pick up him up. My brother who was very happy for a helping hand welcomed Jim's help. So Jim picks up my nephew and the baby immediately stops crying. And this baby and Jim are looking at each other. It was a such a sweet moment and forever seared into my brain. Jim started talking to John (my nephew) and that baby locked eyes on Jim and with a great big smile and he starts cooing. Now we are standing here watching this and my brother is really taken with this moment because John is very hungry and has stopped crying. And my brother is saying that John is usually howling away with hunger and ready for the bottle even when he is being held. So not a sound coming from the baby who is intently staring into Jim's eyes. There is this silent communication between them. It was a magical occurrence to watch this baby stay silent while Jim was holding him. And Jim starts talking to John while he gently rocks him. You could hear a pin drop. So my brother brings in the warmed up bottle and Jim sits down in a chair and gives John his bottle. And they are still locking eyes. John was simply fascinated with this new face. And after those first few ounces, Jim puts John to his shoulder and burps him like a pro. And then gives him the rest of the bottle. When John is finished Jim takes him over to the changing table and changes his diaper like it is second nature. And Jim is softly talking to him. The baby just keeps his eyes locked on Jim. When I asked Jim about this ability to soothe John, he told me he had a nephew and he really felt comfortable with babies. And that is when Jim said he already had a name picked out for a child and it was River.
Jim wanted to have children. He told me so and he would love to have a daughter. And a son would be fine too. Now, something Jim spoke about was that some of the young women he knew in Laurel Canyon were pregnant and taking drugs. He brought up one young woman who purposely took LSD while she was pregnant. Apparently her idea was that the baby's mind/brain would expand more in the uterus. JIm was appalled at such thinking. He went on about how a woman's body needs to be pure and drink only the best water and eat natural foods and best to be living in the country and out of the city. Even coffee and caffinated teas should be eliminated while the fetus is growing. He was really adamant about the fetus getting the best start in life and he believed the mom to be should also take vitamins and have a stress free time while pregnant. She should be happy because the baby would be affected by her moods. Jim was very ahead of his time to be thinking this way. Plenty of women smoked back in the 60's and even drank alcohol and according to Jim took drugs, too.
To hear what I heard from Jim about young women (girls) taking drugs in the 60's while pregnant, I wonder if we are not seeing the results of that today. Maybe it skipped a generation but we have diagnosis of autism and Aspergers syndrome today. When I was growing up these weren't so prevalent. I'd never heard of these syndromes until many, many years later.
Edited by manhime, 08 October 2013 - 02:09 AM.